Dating a married man with kids
I stared enviously at entwined couples on the Sunday night train going home.
In the eyes of outsiders and the law, our love was fraudulent — non-existent, even. If Lauren had died, heaven forbid, I would have been the first to care, but the last to know.
You can still date someone with children, but there is a way to be responsible without affecting the child.
It is important to remember that you are dating him, his kids. If it’s just a casual situation or the beginning stages where the two of you are still trying to figure each other out, there’s no need to stress or obsess over his responsibilities. For those of you dating with kids, I understand that sometimes you don’t disclose that information because you want to have a social life and would like to keep certain things separate, but honestly, everything will eventually overlap once things pick up with the person you are dating.
Don’t expect him to have loads of time on his hands.
If he’s a responsible dad and works hard to provide for his child, you can’t fault him for it, but also don’t think that you have to settle for a lack of time together if it’s not something you’re comfortable with.
I had to do the math because something wasn’t adding up.
If he has a child, what type of dealings does he have with the child’s mother? How would that potentially affect you in terms of dating?
If avoiding drama with the mother doesn’t seem doable, then run for the hills and never look back.
Again, while I liked him, I learned that he was not an upfront person, and Still, I learned a lot from that situation.
Even though my friends and I swore that we would never date men with children, I’m learning that having kids doesn’t automatically make you unsuitable for dating.
You can tell when someone knows how to handle their business and when someone doesn’t.