Missed the boat dating
While all my friends were experiencing their first loves (and heartbreaks) in their teen years, I was chasing after my best guy friend and intentionally dating boys I knew were assh*les, mostly because I felt like they required a whole lot less of me than a real relationship ever would.The first one was 8 years older than me, and had a divorce and two kids under his belt already.We were just at different life stages, going into a relationship with a completely different understanding of what being in a relationship meant.I needed space to heal after that relationship, and was closed off to anything real for quite a while after it ended. I worry that once I am in my 30s men will have even less interest.
I feel like I missed the boat in terms of meeting someone at the right age. I've been online dating, joined a sports team, and go out as much as I can, but I haven't been in a serious relationship in three years. I date someone for a month or so and they lose interest. But really, 29 is no different than 31 or any other number.Also, stop thinking of your three-year break as evidence of some sort of personal flaw. You've had plenty of dates over the years even though you haven't found a life partner. You'll go to one wave of weddings and then another. Try to remember that there's no perfect age for any of this stuff.
It was an infant adoption I hadn't been looking for, but that turned out to be the very best thing to ever happen to me.