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“So you have two choices here,” says Linnda Durré, a consultant who specializes in resolving the kinds of conflicts you are describing.
You’re quiet and don’t speak up to avoid being attacked. This person might even be a subordinate – somebody who works for you (believe me, this happens more than you might think.) You probably sense a lack of ‘parity’– that you don’t have the right to engage with this person at the same level.
“You can still take control over your own life,” says Durré.
Stacks of research over the past 30 years have proven beyond doubt that chronic stress will eventually make you sick, and poison your life and relationships outside of work, unless you work extra hard at taking care of yourself.
Durré’s book includes a checklist of stress-busting measures that can help: Get enough sleep, exercise, eat a healthy diet, drink water, take vitamins, spend as much time as you can with friends and family members who love you, and carve out space in your schedule for activities you enjoy and that will help you relax.
You can also try to get some psychological distance from your horrible office by “realizing your own issues, and analyzing your own buttons that are getting pushed at work,” Durré says.