Older people dating considerably younger people
(That remaining 1 out of 10 has done you the favor of self-selecting out of your dating pool and you should be grateful that you don’t need to deal with them.) When you’re treating your lack of dates or sexual activity as a crime perpetuated against you by the universe, it makes you considerably less attractive to… If you dig into women’s about how they behave and the attitudes they had towards themselves, towards women and towards relationships. There’s two ways that making excuses doesn’t help you.
That’s not taking ownership of being socially inexperienced; that’s making it the core of your identity and letting it overtake your life.
You don’t need to explain or justify it; trying to find reasons why it’s less “shameful” than others’ just reinforces the idea that there’s something shameful about it in the first place.
You don’t need to explain or excuse your lack of dating experience; “I had other priorities” or “Just hadn’t met the right person” are all you need to say if pressed.
Just because the last 40 women you made out with liked the Swirly-Go-Round doesn’t mean that it’s not going to make your partner’s skin crawl. Do your research where you can (here’s a great place to start…), take some risks, make some mistakes.
Great sex isn’t about technique, it’s about comfort and familiarity. Letting your inexperience be your excuse for not trying or expecting someone else to always lead isn’t going to do you any good.
or he may have had a long, happy relationship with one person. The thing is, no matter what some STEMBros believe, relationships aren’t math problems and statistics.