Dating 10 months now
At a minimum, it is a waste of your time, as more likely than not, non-exclusive relationships peter out. It is rude and disrespectful to be subject to such behavior. Dating someone while they’re dating other people is the same thing.At worst, you are setting yourself up for heartbreak, getting attached to a person who refuses to focus on you. While he’s out with you having coffee, his mind could be on the dinner he had with her last night. I know many people think, It’s okay if he’s dating others besides me. What matters is that you find a way to talk about important things as you build a relationship that works for both of you. Even if this not a rejection — and I don’t think this is one — I know it can feel like it. (It’s OK to tease him.) Tell him that you’d like to know more about where he’s coming from — more than that he just “generally waits.” And tell him why you are ready. The reason you should really talk this out is the same reason why I don’t like the word “abnormal.” It doesn’t matter what he does “generally,” just as it doesn’t matter what’s “normal.” This is just about the two of you and nobody else.
She says it’s 100% normal for us to both date multiple people at once until we decide together to make the relationship exclusive. Agreeing to date someone while he or she dates other people signals that it is somehow acceptable not to respect or value you.Some messages were flirty or stated we had been rocky.We got in a fight but he said none of the snaps meant anything.Insisting that a man date you exclusively while he’s dating you sends him the signal that you are special, that you deserve love and care and respect. In my many years of matchmaking I’ve found that the one thing that’s gotten even the most confirmed bachelors off the fence and into marriage are women with inner self-confidence – no matter how quiet or soft they are – that insist on being treated the way they would treat their partner – with exclusive attention. Ziva Kramer, MA has been an international matchmaker, dating coach and spiritual advisor for professional singles for many years.Known for her honesty, candor, and for passing out wisdom that people trust.
Not one minute of those two months was focused exclusively on you, a prerequisite to really evaluating taking a relationship to the next step.